Zara Friend lets us in on her wedding plans

The wedding
I met my fiancé Dean back in 2002, when I was working part-time while I studied at college. We have been engaged since 2005 – a long time to some but we always had the 2008 date in mind. The two years have flown by and now we’re in the final stretch to our big day. It’s been two years of gradual planning and lots of saving. The average wedding is said to cost £16,000, but this takes into account a minimal no-fuss ceremony to an all-out extravagant do at the other end of the scale. Hopefully, ours will fall somewhere in the middle.
We’ve had the time to plan and think about what we want as the day needs to be special and memorable. At first, the costs involved did seem a bit crazy but on further research, this was simply the price of having a dream wedding. With this in mind, we embarked on the fun preparations to follow that would culminate in the big day.
Arundel Castle creates the perfect backdrop for the day
Venues
For me and Dean, there is no better backdrop for a wedding than Sussex. The thought of a beach abroad crossed our minds – who wouldn’t love the guaranteed perfect weather and tranquil setting? – but it would be difficult to point out the spot where you were wed 15 years later as you take a drive with the kids.
I always envisioned a sprawling country hotel with a gravel driveway and plenty of rooms for friends and family to stay over. Back in 2006, we visited venues around Sussex for inspiration. A quick internet search and chatting with friends had drawn up four possibilities within our budget and another few after that. One venue nestled in the South Downs nearly won us over. It was the perfect setting, modern yet homely. The problem was, it was too small. For weddings, they would erect a marquee for the guests, which would be great on a balmy summer’s evening but you can never tell with British summertime. A hundred guests huddled under a marquee protecting themselves from the rain and mud is not a look we were going for.
Our search continued, taking us west of Sussex, away from the seafront and busy city centre. We quickly decided on the picturesque town of Arundel. In terms of travel, it would take guests around 40 minutes to reach Arundel from the church in Hangleton. Realistically, we could spend just as long driving into central Brighton of a Saturday.
Dean and I went to Arundel when we first started going out, so the area has significant history to us. Set against the grounds of Arundel Castle, our chosen reception venue is the Norfolk Arms Hotel. Traditional and picturesque – set in the middle of the high street – this is exactly the venue we had in mind. There’s a large car park for guests (it’s the little things to think about) and there’s more parking available down by the river.
Arundel offers fantastic photo opportunities close to the hotel grounds with the stunning backdrop of the castle in the background. The back-up plan (weather wise) is the interior of the hotel where the grand staircase is perfect wedding party photos.
Inside, the reception room is traditional and inviting. Large windows run along the back wall, allowing plenty of light in, while the high ceilings make the room feel more spacious, despite only holding 100 guests. We will travel to the hotel from the ceremony. This takes place in the 17th century church that sits above a spacious green in Hangleton. The whole feel is quite traditional with some fun twists, including the primrose yellow vintage car we have hired for the day!
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