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Dani admits to being petty but won’t go too far, unlike some people
I will be the first to admit that I can be very petty. But I am generally only petty with things that I feel are really unfair.
Being petty for the sake of being petty is a waste of time and energy. But all day long, all year round we all encounter one or two people who thrive on this. I don’t understand it. You may have family members, friends, colleagues or all of the above (as I think I do) who grab hold of something really small like, for instance, a molehill and then through the power of negative thought turn it into, let’s say, a mountain.
I am not saying these people are bad, that would be insulting towards me as I am one of those people. But there are different degrees of pettyness. I am petty in private. I will make a mountain out of a molehill but that will, in general, only affect me. Some people make trouble when the thing they are being petty about is the actions of another person and instead of “letting sleeping dogs lie” they constantly pick on that one certain point – relentlessly. And then there are possibly the worst kind, those who make every simple task into a rat race, those who purposely antagonise others, those who make themselves the victim in every single situation there is. And, sometimes, those on the outside have to take a stand or just walk away from the petty person.
“Breaking up with a friend is a lot different to breaking up with boyfriend or girlfriend“
A good friend of mine just had to “break-up” with an old friend of hers. The main reason being pettyness. Breaking up with a friend is a lot different to breaking up with boyfriend or girlfriend. Friends can have been a part of your life for a long time, on many occasions they will have seen and heard a lot more of you then even some of your relatives. They should be there through the thick and thin and never judge you for the choices you make (unless you decide to murder or something horrible like that). It is strange how something small can make you flip your lid when you can keep your cool when something big upsets you.
In general, that is what happens with me. I spend all my time trying my hardest to remain calm, letting all the things that bother me sink down to the pit of my stomach and then sometimes, something really small and really petty can send the long list of things buried in my stomach mental. And I flip. They call it seeing red. Personally I don’t see anything at all. It just feels like my head is going t explode unless I shout at someone.
My family can get angry, and we do get angry. Some about things that upset us for reasons no one else can fathom and some because of the others. The main thing is that it never spoils anything. We make mountains out of molehills and know we can because we are with people who will not necessarily judge us for it. Friends should be the same. Sometimes you need a moan about something and friends act as a great sounding board. Just not when you moan about them to their faces – constantly. That is when you are allowed to make a mountain out of a molehill.
