LV Loves
JBPR’s Lisa on the sparks in a relationship
Obviously the Peter Andre show isn’t the most thought provoking of shows and it’s not intending to be either, but last week a chat Pete had with his friend and road manager Carl got me thinking. Pete was talking about being single and how he dates such beautiful people but when it comes to taking it further he can’t commit. Carl replied that it doesn’t matter how many people Pete dated if he didn’t connect with that person it’s not happening. Carl suggested Pete stop trying so hard to meet the one – to just let it happen. Wise words, though not sure Pete heeded the advice as he just exclaimed “I can’t my heart is searching!”
The chat really struck a chord with me. I was in relationship for 6 years the same as Pete, I wasn’t married and didn’t have kids but was totally 100% with that person and gave him my whole heart after being selective for years. It’s not that I’m fussy but it’s important to me that I connect with someone. Despite not really dating since being single I have met men that have been perfectly lovely but I’ve just had absolutely no connection with them. When liaising with the Greek, we did find the attraction was there but we had no mental connection whatsoever, which was fine by us.
Let me explain what I believe to be the connection, as its really not to be confused with physical attraction:
– When someone looks in your eyes and you know what they’re thinking
– When in a crowded room with them, it feels like its just you and them
– When you look in someone’s eyes and you don’t want to look away
– When you feel like you’ve known them forever
– When you know what they are going to say before they say it,
– When you find the same silly things funny and no one else does
Well, that kind of thing, and yes you may think that sounds like love and maybe it is but its not always, they are just the things that make you 100% click with someone. The spark can be found with the most unlikely people – and can take you totally by surprise, it can turn into love or just fade away but either way it’s worth waiting for.
When you come out a little burnt from a break up, its hard to commit to a date let alone anything else. I’ve connected with someone once since my break up and when I did I felt relieved as it meant my broken heart had healed and I didn’t even care if it was broken again – which it was, but its gets easier! It meant that my heart hadn’t given up and I still had the capacity to bond. So even if I’m not searching right now I know that, like Pete, my heart is still doing the work and if I never feel that kind of connection with someone again I know I’d rather be single forever than sacrifice that feeling just to be in a relationship. I also know how it feels to find someone that feels like a soul mate and it feels too good to settle for less.
Johnny and Baby had the spark!
Dirty Dancing – Baby: “Me? I’m scared of everything. I’m scared of what I saw, I’m scared of what I did, of who I am, and most of all I’m scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I’m with you”
